Holiday Survival Guide: Finding Genuine Joy in the Season’s Chaos

Mental health belongs to all of us. We're reminded that wellness is our birthright when we see ourselves reflected in moments of joy, connection, and healing. This holiday season, let’s celebrate the strength of community and the beauty of being seen. 👑 Mental Health Monarchs, 2024.

The holiday season comes wrapped in twinkling lights and good vibes—or so the story goes. But for many, this time of year also stirs up a cocktail of emotions that aren’t so merry and bright. Whether it’s the pressure of family gatherings, the ache of loneliness, or just feeling “meh” when everyone else seems too jolly, it’s real, y’all. Let’s unpack this and reclaim your peace.

The Family Gathering Drama: It’s Giving Stress, Not Serenity

The holidays often come with a side of “family expectations.” Society loves to hype up togetherness, but let’s be honest—not everyone’s family is a Norman Rockwell painting. For those with strained relationships or complicated pasts, the idea of a family reunion can feel like stepping into a minefield.

How to Keep Your Sanity Intact

• Set Boundaries, Protect Your Peace: You have every right to say, “I’ll come for an hour,” or even, “Not this year, y’all.” Let your “no” be your complete sentence.

• Phone a friend (or therapist): Do you have someone who truly gets it? Lean on them. Vent, laugh, or strategize your escape plan for that cousin who always wants to stir the pot.

• Start Fresh Traditions: Who says holidays have to be about family? Go solo, call your squad, or Netflix and cocoa the day away. Make it yours.

Chosen Families: Because Blood Isn’t the Only Bond

Let’s talk about chosen families. These are the folks you want around—the ones who see you, value you, and don’t hit you with passive-aggressive jabs over dinner. For anyone who feels disconnected from their biological family, chosen families can be a lifeline.

How to Build Your Kingdom

• Find Your Tribe: Whether it’s a local art class, a volunteering group, or a quirky meetup, like-minded folks are out there.

• Pour Into These Connections: Chosen families thrive on care and effort. Water those plants, boo!

• Make Memories Together: Who better to toast the season with than your hand-picked crew? Bring the vibes and let the joy flow.

When the vibe is right, and the food hits just as good as the company. 🍽✨ Mental Health Monarchs, 2024.

Single and Thriving (Yes, Even in Cuffing Season)

The holidays can hit different when you’re single. The Hallmark movie marathons and mistletoe moments might have you side-eyeing the whole season. But guess what? You’re not missing out—you’re making space for YOU.

Boss Moves for a Solo Season

• Love Your Own Company: Light some candles, hit your favorite playlist, and remind yourself how amazing you are.

• Get Social (or Don’t): Whether you hit up a community event, volunteer, or stay in your PJs, choose what feels good.

• Ignore the Noise: You’re not “less than” just because you don’t have a plus-one. Your worth isn’t tied to anyone else’s presence. Period.

Genuine Joy: Forget the Instagram Aesthetic

Here’s the tea: Real joy isn’t about the picture-perfect tree or how many gifts are under it. Genuine joy comes from within—when you align with your values and create moments that truly matter to YOU.

How to Tap Into the Real Stuff

1. Be Real With Yourself: What do the holidays actually mean to you? Not to your mama, not to society—you.

2. Own Your Traditions: Whether it’s hosting a vision board brunch or doing yoga in ugly sweaters, do what lights you up.

3. Stay Mindful: Take a second to appreciate the small wins—a warm cup of tea, a call from a friend, or just making it through another day.

4. Ditch the “Perfect Holiday” Lie: There’s no such thing. Lean into what’s messy and imperfect—that’s where the magic lives.

The holidays remind us that family isn’t just about blood—it’s about the bonds we choose to nurture. 💜 Mental Health Monarchs, 2024.

Navigating the Curveballs

Holidays can also bring grief, family drama, or just plain exhaustion. Here’s how to handle it like the royalty you are:

• Lonely? Step out of your comfort zone and find a group where you belong. Your vibe will attract your tribe.

• Family Dynamics a Mess? Limit your time and energy with toxic folks. Boundaries are a love language—for yourself.

• Grieving? Honor those feelings. Light a candle for a loved one or dedicate a special moment to their memory.

Cheers to YOU: Claiming Your Crown of Joy

Remember that you’re not obligated to follow anyone’s script this holiday season. Rewrite the story to fit your joy, needs, and peace. As for me? I’ll be over here vibing to Terrace Martin’s Christmas album. Your move—what joy are YOU creating this season?