Emotional Liberation Sundays: Generational Dysfunction is a Hot Mess!

Bishop Butterscotch
Aug 13
2 min read

Main blog post image for Emotional Liberation Sundays depicting a family photo of a Black family in an elegant gold frame.

If your chest gets tight before a family function, you’re not dramatic—you’re remembering. Today’s Emotional Liberation Sundays is mostly images on purpose—so you can feel it, not just read it. Today, we’ll name general generational dysfunctions with the Hot Mess Ledger and lay it in the Collection Plate of Peace so you can start to release what no longer serves you. Which dysfunctional pattern will you choose to release today!?

Drop a 👑 and share what you're releasing in the comments so we can clap for you! Enjoy the service.

Emotional Liberation Sundays—Order of Service: Generational dysfunction is a hot mess. service Led by Bishop Butterscotch for the First Missionary Wellness Church of Mental Health Monarchs

Proclamation of Liberty for breaking generational dysfunction.

Journal Study instead of "Bible Study"for self-awareness around familial generational dysfunction.

Praise & Worship slide for Emotional Liberation Sundays listing A and B selections for the MHM Church choir

The hymnal song "God is a Healer, but So is My Therapist."

Why Generational Dysfunction Sticks

Sermonette part 1—naming generational dysfunction without shame; truth told gently. MHM Church.

Sermonette part 2—naming generational dysfunction without shame; truth told gently. MHM Church.

The Hot Mess Ledger (Patterns & Costs)

Hot Mess Ledger—silent treatment, emotional blackmail, gaslighting, fear-based respect. MHM Church.

Hot Mess Ledger—unspoken rules, performative perfection, public image, no-apology culture. MHM Church.

Hot Mess Ledger—parentification, role reversal, golden child/scapegoat, projection. MHM Church.

Hot Mess Ledger—conflict avoidance, denial, over-functioning, under-functioning. MHM Church.

The Collection Plate of Peace (What I’m Laying Down)

Collection Plate of Peace—lay down harmful patterns and pick up calm. MHM Church.

Collection Plate of Peace—requesting like, share, follow, or comment to engage. MHM Church.

Altar call to emotional regulation and therapy—breathe, self-honor, and choose peace. MHM Church.

Benediction, Healing Verse & Crown Commandment

Benediction—leave what isn’t yours; carry your peace forward. MHM Church.

Sunday fellowship announcement—post-service dinner is being served; join us to break bread and connect virtually. MHM Church.

If something on these slides touched a tender spot, take a breath and keep your crown steady. You can love people and still refuse their patterns a seat at your table. Leave what isn’t yours on the Offering Plate of Peace, answer the call to the altar of therapy, and go in sovereignty. We’ll practice again next Sunday.

Healing Verse of the Week

Hell Nah 6:22 - I have a choice: I refuse to participate in family dysfunction that keeps me unseen, unheard, small, or disrespected.

Crowning Thought

Distance is sometimes necessary for you to grow and create room to build a life that truly fulfills you.

Crown Commandment

I will not trade self-betrayal for belonging!

FAQ

Q: What is generational dysfunction?

A: Repeating family patterns—silence, control, image management, etc. that pass harm forward as “tradition.”

Q: How do I start breaking it?

A: Name the pattern, set one boundary you can keep, and get support (therapy/community) so you’re not doing it alone.

Q: Can I love my family and still take distance?

A: Yes. Distance protects your peace. You can still care without subjecting yourself to further harm.

Q: What’s the Hot Mess Ledger?

A: A plain-language list of common patterns and their emotional costs so you can identify what to release.

Enjoy this bop!